You will never have absolute control over the external world. Whether it is your institution or your family or the world, you will never have total control over the external situation. But you can have total control over the internal situation. Emotional states you call as anger, hate, lust or as compassion and love – from the lowest to the highest – are certain types of expression of the same energy.
Now, why you are asking if without anger you cannot exist is probably because your anger is the most intense situation you have experienced in your life. Unfortunately, for most people, their fear, their anger, their hatred are the most intense situations in their lives. Their love is never so intense, their peace is never so intense, their joy is never so intense, but their negativities are intense. So, they experience power in negative situations.
Suppose you start experiencing yourself as part of the people around you; after that there is no need teach you to be good, not to harm, or not to kill. Then you can do something for the situation, but without anger..
The whole process of Yoga is based on this. A day will come when even if you are put into the most extreme situation, your energies will remain very calm. How you respond will depend on the situation you are in, who you are, what your capabilities are, and what means you have. When you act out of unity with all life, you act without identity. Only then can you function out of your intelligence.
Yoga means to cultivate your energy in such a way that gradually it breaks the physical limitations and elevates you to the highest level of awareness, the flowering of human potential.
Tips to deal with Anger
-Lynne Namka, Ed. D.
Recognize: Thoughts = anger
Accept: You control the thinking
Choose: To pause and cool down. To take down your inflammatory hot thoughts.
To breathe deeply and be in control of the situation To choose a higher level of anger response
Monitor: Your level of arousal
The Only Person Who Can Make You Angry Is Yourself!
And Likewise, You Are the Only Person Who Can Create Peace of Mind!
It is OK to feel angry. It is not OK to hurt yourself or others with your anger.